So I was on the phone with my SIL who is a surgical nurse and I was asking her about the meds that I am on.... Out of nowhere she says, "Now aren't you glad that you didn't have a baby with all this going on." WHAT?????? She above all should understand how much we have been through and how much it has hurt me. She should know how long I researched IVF, and asking questions and nurses that she works with who had gone through it....
Where do people get their nerve???? That may be the reason for the feelings over the past few days. I was just sitting her and kinda blubbed a little trying not to let the children see that I was upset. Thank God for Dora the Explorer.
It felt like she was using the fact that I am infertile to throw just one more dart in my heart. I am one who forgives, but the hurt is never forgotten. It takes a long time for me to heal from such offenses. I was thrown off balance. I still have not recovered.
I do not htink that I will talk to her for a while if ever again now. Not out of anger, but fear of being told such things again. Their life goes on and mine is at a stand still there is no sympathy or understanding.
I am done, stick a fork in me done!
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No way. I never cease to be amazed at the heartless things that people will say. I was getting ready to leave for Christmas travels this past year and I was talking to an acquaintance about the 6-hour road trip. She replied "At least you don't have any kids to entertain in the car!"
Grrrr! I just don't get it...
The difference is that this girl may not know the full extent of what I've been through, but I'm sure your SIL does. There's just no excuse for that kind of comment.
Anyway, I read all of your posts today and I'm glad you had a full day of writing out your thoughts. I know this is so hard - the milestones are hard, and the decisions about the future are next to impossible. I'm sorry, Amy. I hate to see you going through this pain every single day.
((BIG HUGS))
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